BBC 6分钟英语学习 你容易嫉妒吗？

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I'm Sam, and I'm Neil. Your friend Alicia phoned and left a message for you, neil.

She's sorry, but she has to cancel lunch today.

I think she's going with Jenny instead.

That's the 3rd time this week they've had lunch together.

Their best friends now, hmm, sounds like Neil has a case of the green eyed monster.

In other words, jealousy, the fear that someone else may take something you think is yours.

Humans have struggled with jealousy for thousands of years.

Jealousy damages friendships, destroys relationships, and can even become a motive for murder.

In this program, we'll discuss jealousy to find out what happens when the green eyed monster raises its ugly head.

And as usual, we'll be learning some useful new vocabulary.

Meanwhile, my friend Alisha will be having lunch with Jenny instead of me.

Feeling jealous, is no fun. Maybe this question will take your mind off it.

The expression The green eyed monster comes from a speech in one of William shakespeare's most famous plays.

But which one is it A Romeo and Juliet b Hamlet or C or Fellow?

I think the answer is a Fellow Cania.

I'll reveal the answer later in the program.

For many people, feelings of jealousy occur in romantic relationships.

Here, psychologists dr Alex Mockey explains why to BBC World Service program crowd science.

So you have a friend, significant other, your paren'ts, and you have the feeling that this relationship is threatened by someone else starting some form of relationship with them, starting a new friendship, you know, flirting with them, and so on, which is different from envy, e.g., which is probably the emotion that gets you to act.

When someone has something you want and you have to somehow get that from them, that's when you feel envious.

Jealousy can be a problem for husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, or anyone involved in a romantic relationship.

DR Millki uses the term significant other to describe any kind of romantic partner who you have a long term relationship with.

You might feel jealous if someone flirts with your partner.

Flirting is when you behave as if you are sexually attracted to someone, but in a playful way, rather than with serious intentions.

Doctor Milkey also notes the difference between two words people often confuse, jealousy, and a similar term envy, wanting what someone else has.

You could be envious of someone's possessions, like a new car, their achievements, like promotion at work, or a personal quality, like being funny or good looking.

So jealousy involves three people you your loved one and someone else, whereas envy involves just two, you and the person who has something you want.

But while these emotions are easy to define, they can be very difficult to manage.

Jealousy can lead to controlling behavior, like checking your partners text messages or monitoring who they see, behavior which damages relationships.

But unlike other psychological problems such as anxiety or obsessive compulsive disorder, many do not feel brave enough to ask for help with their jealousy.

So what can people who struggle with jealousy do?

That's the question Caroline Steel, presenter a BBC world service program Crowd Science, asked clinical psychologist dr Yohan Allen.

If there was an ideal future for people looking for help with their jealousy, what would it be like?

Could there be a pill, or would it be a specific therapy?

Or what's kind of a realistic ideal future?

I believe that some kind of cognitive behavioral therapy where you work with decreasing this, monitoring and checking behaviors, like having a plan for how to do that, because that's not easy, and also at the same time, increasing activities or or behaviors that harmonize with how you want to become.

Unfortunately, dr Alan says jealousy cannot be cured by taking a pill, medicine in the form of a small tablet that you swallow.

Instead, he recommends cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, for short, a therapy which helps people deal with their emotions by changing how they think about things.

Instead of feeling jealous that your best friend is spending time with someone else, try feeling happy that she's made a new friend.

Good idea. Plus, I won't have that horrid feeling of the green eyed monster inside.

Speaking of which, it's time to reveal the answer to your question, sam, I asked which famous experience Play 1st described jealousy as the Green Eyed Monster.

I said it was a fellow.

So was I right? A Fellow was the correct answer.

A fellow becomes so jealous that he murders his

wife, does Demona before killing himself.

If only he'd had some therapy, right?

Let's recap the vocabulary from this program on the green eyed monster.

Another name for jealousy. A significant other is a wife, husband or other romantic partner who you are in a long term relationship with.

Flirting means playfully pretending you are sexually attracted to someone.

The emotion envy means wanting what someone else has.

A pill is medicine in the form of a small tablet, which you swallow.

And finally, cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, is a type of therapy where people are encouraged to change the way they think about their emotional and behavioral problems.

Once again, our 6 min are up.

Join us again soon for more emotional support, as well as new and useful vocabulary here at 6 min English.

Goodbye for now. Puffy six News English from the BBC.

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