BBC 6分钟英语学习 约会应用程序：我们的大脑如何反应

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BBC, learning English. Hello, and welcome to Six Minute English.

I'm Dan, and hello, I'm Rob.

In today's program, we're going to be looking at what our brains are doing when we're using dating apps.

Now, rob, have you ever used a dating app?

No way. I would never use one.

Hmm. So, rob, can you explain, when talking about dating apps, what we mean by swipe left and swipe right?

Ah, yes. These are not new words, but technology has given them new meaning to Swipe is the movement of your finger on a smartphone to change the screen you're looking at.

So imagine turning the page in a book.

Well, on a phone, you swipe in some dating apps.

They show you pictures of people you might find attractive.

If you do like them, you swipe right.

If you don't like them, you swipe left.

We will dig deeper into this topic shortly.

But 1st, a question in the UK, approximately how many marriages start with the couple meeting online?

Is it A, one in three?

B, one in four, or C, one in five?

What do you think? Um, well, all of those seem quite high to me, so I'm going to guess in the middle, one in four.

Well, we'll find out if you'll write later in the program.

Now, alice Grey is a science communicator and blogger.

Recently she was a guest on BBC Radio Force woman's our program.

And she was asked about what goes on in our brains when we use dating apps compared to when we meet people in real life.

What difference does she say there is?

It was very easy to think that just with these instantaneous white left quite right, that the process in our brain of how we pick out a suitable mate would be very different, when actually it's really similar to how we do it in person.

So she says that what goes on in our brains is actually very similar.

Online. We make decisions very quickly about who we like.

These decisions are almost immediate. She used the adjective instantaneous for this.

So we make these instantaneous decisions, then choose to swipe left or swipe right.

In real life, we do the same thing.

We know almost immediately when we see someone if we find them attractive or not, although, of course, in digital dating, once you've swiped left, you will never see that person again, and you won't have the chance to meet in the real world.

You could meet someone you don't find attractive instantaneously, and then get to know them and find that you do quite like them.

Yes, this is true, but then possibly they won't like you.

And then you have to deal with rejection.

Rejection is when someone doesn't find you attractive and they don't want to spend time with you or get to know you.

So what's the difference in our brains between online rejection and real life rejection?

Here's Alice Grey. Again, we see that a lot of the patterns associated with rejection in real life and in rejection on dating apps are similar.

Is just the exposure to the rate of the amount of rejection you get on dating apps is a lot higher than the ones in real life.

So in real life, I feel have time to sort of compute the rejection get over a little bit, and just yourself offer and get on with it, whereas the rate of rejection on dating apps is so high, it's often hard to cope with one coming in after another.

Hmm. So she says that our brains response to real life and online rejection is quite similar.

But in the digital world, you can be rejected many more times.

In real life, you have a bit more time to recover from the rejection, to get over it.

As she says, you can dust yourself off, which is a way of saying that you think positively to make yourself feel better, imagine falling over on the ground.

When you get up, you might be covered in dust and dirt.

You need to dust yourself off to make yourself ready again before you carry on.

Hmm. In the online world, though you don't have that time, online dating apps can lead to many rejections, and psychologically, that can be difficult to manage.

Another way of saying difficult to manage is difficult to cope with.

Well, we don't want you to reject us.

So time now to give you the answer to that quiz question.

Before a recap of today's vocabulary.

I asked in the UK, approximately how many marriages start with the couple meeting online?

Is it A one in three?

B, one in four, or C one in five?

So I said, B, one in four, you know, 25 %?

Was I right? Sorry. Rob The answer is a one in three.

Does that surprise you? Uh, well, yes, it does.

I didn't think it would be that high.

It's a sign of the times.

Rob digital world, digital dating. Hmm, let's have a look at that vocabulary.

OK. Well, we started with the verb to swipe the movement of our finger on a smartphone or tablet screen to indicate whether we like someone or not.

Swipe right for like. Swipe left if you don't like.

Our decisions on whether we find someone attractive or not are often instantaneous.

This adjective means immediate at once.

Rejection

is when you let someone know that you are not interested in them, you don't want to be romantically involved with them.

If you are rejected, you might need some time to feel better.

And for this, you can use the frasal verb Get over.

It can take some time to get over a rejection.

Yeah, I know. Now, being positive and optimistic after a rejection can be described as dusting yourself off.

But having many rejections can be difficult to cope with, which means it can be difficult to manage, difficult to keep positive.

Well, we hope you don't swipe left on this program, and that you'll join us again next time.

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